Since long before we knew to identify as Daddy and submissive, toys like the Ami have figured heavily into our rotation.
Daddy has always liked to leave me with reminders while he’s away at work. Way back when, we had a knock-off version of the butterfly vibrator, it was called The Ladybug. We found out, pretty quickly, that my clit didn’t like the sustained vibration of wearing it long term. Wearing it all by myself, doing housework, I wasn’t in a sexy mood and found the constant vibration annoying and eventually painful. But Daddy has never been one to give up easily.
He came to the conclusion that if he wanted to leave me at home, equipped with a casual reminder, it would need to be internal. Every time we saw a toy that seemed to fit the bill, we’d go through another test period. There were several nameless toys that we bought and used in various off-brand ways that didn’t quite work out.
There was the Vibease, a bluetooth controllable toy that we supported in a kickstarter. We waited and waited for it to arrive, but it wasn’t really meant to be worn internally, and it had a little bump on it that wouldn’t settle comfortably for long term internal wear. (Also, we couldn’t get the bluetooth to stay connected, no matter what we did!)
We tried the We-Vibe II – and it worked better than most. I can remember some lovely afternoons wearing it on the lowest vibration setting while ironing Daddy’s shirts. It was hard to get it to stay engaged while moving around, though – it wasn’t meant to be worn that way, and I came to realize that while I can wear something completely internal for a while, something that is both inside my vagina and wrapped around the outside of my vulva causes more fatigue – there’s a friction that makes it hard to maintain.
Next, we found the Lelo Luna beads, which were a much better fit. I found I could wear them for hours. This was also the first time that Daddy could reasonable take me on a date with an internal toy in place, and it’s still one of his favorites. (I remember a recent two mile run with the Luna beads and my Crystal Delights plug – it was surprisingly difficult to get to the finish line, but worth all the work for the smile Daddy flashed me when I got home!)
The Lelo Luna beads were meant to be worn internally, and when I got them I realized that for this specific purpose (i.e. wearing a passive toy all day) I prefer that the toy doesn’t vibrate. The Luna beads have weights that move naturally around inside the beads so that you can feel them move throughout the day, but it’s not enough to irritate – just enough to remind you it’s there.
My biggest complaint was that when I’d push the Luna beads into place (and then sometimes repeatedly *back* into place when they’d start to slip during daily wear) the thin silicone connector running between the two beads on the harness would allow the beads to push together, leading to an uncomfortable pinching sensation for me. Also, the hard plastic, though nice for cleaning purposes, wasn’t my favorite material.
When we saw the Je Joue Ami, we knew right away it was worth a shot. The Ami consists of three different weighted insertables, made of silky-soft (and body-safe) silicone. Level 1 is a soft, almost squishy ball that is the lightest and biggest of the three. Level 2 is dumbbell shaped and heavier, and level 3 is the hardest, most compact and heaviest of them all. While Kegel exercises aren’t my main goal, I like the progression aspect. The Level 2 is my go to – if Daddy tells me to go and get my wearable toy, this is the one I get. The Level 1 Ami actually stays in my gym locker at work, where I’ll wear it on the elliptical if I’m feeling particularly sassy or looking to catch Daddy’s attention (working out while wearing the Ami earns me jellybeans!) Finally, if Daddy tells me to put on my Level 2 and I tell him I’m feeling up for the Level 3, I earn metaphorical gold stars (and possibly actual jellybeans as well)
At first, however, I found that I had a lot of trouble with the strings attached to the Ami. Instead of being coated string, like the Luna beads have (comfortable, though they have aged to an ugly yellow that I don’t dig) the Ami has loops of silicone that feel harder than the body of the toy. Resting against my inner labia, the strings were really irritating, and I actually almost gave up on the Ami altogether.
Then, I started my period. As I put my menstrual cup into place, I remembered the silicone stem that was part of the cup, when I first received it. In pretty short order, on the advice of internet reviewers, I used nail clippers to trim and smooth the stem completely away. After all, I know how to get a foreign object out of my vagina without any problems at this point in my life (not a skill I ever expected to tout, but there it is.) I pulled out my trusty nail clippers and trimmed away the strings from the Ami, and my body likes it a lot better now.
It’s a little strange to review, since the use of these toys, for us, isn’t about direct pleasure. It’s about D/s, and knowing that I’m wearing these because Daddy wants me to, which puts me into a nicely submissive headspace by the time he gets home. Sometimes, he’ll have me wear it during the day, while we’re being parents and doing the domestic routine, to keep me aware of the other aspects of our relationship, so that when bedtime comes, I’ll be where he wants me to be. Because it’s such a headspace issue, and not so physical, it isn’t so much the toy’s job to get me off or even to feel pleasurable. It is, however, important to Daddy that this type of toy is comfortable for me to wear all day. If he wants me uncomfortable, we move into other kinds of toys (Spiral Butt Plug, I’m looking at you…) In that sense, the Ami does a better job than anything that has come before it, as it’s actually quite comfortable and I can wear it for several hours without any trouble.
Also, if I wear the Ami (or the Luna beads for that matter) all afternoon, even if I’m not thinking particularly sexy thoughts or in a sexual frame of mind, the engagement of the PC muscles and the natural lubrication that comes from carrying them means that, for me at least, I’m surprisingly ready to go. Daddy can pull them out and fuck me with very little preparation, which can be fun for both of us on the right day.
It’s a very particular use-case – almost an internal collar, but for that purpose, the Ami is as close to perfect as we have found.